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These are forms of male aggression that only women see. But even when men are afforded a front seat to harassment, they don’t always have the correct vantage point for recognizing the subtlety of its operation. Four years before the murders, I was sitting in a bar in Washington, D.C. with a male friend. Another young woman was alone at the bar when an older man scooted next to her. He was aggressive, wasted, and sitting too close, but she smiled curtly at his ramblings and laughed softly at his jokes as she patiently downed her drink. ‘Why is she humoring him?’ my friend asked me. ‘You would never do that.’ I was too embarrassed to say: ‘Because he looks scary’ and ‘I do it all the time.’

Women who have experienced this can recognize that placating these men is a rational choice, a form of self-defense to protect against setting off an aggressor. But to male bystanders, it often looks like a warm welcome, and that helps to shift blame in the public eye from the harasser and onto his target, who’s failed to respond with the type of masculine bravado that men more easily recognize.

Why it’s so hard for men to see misogyny (via ethiopienne)

BOOOM.  Read this if you are a dude, please.

(via geekyjessica)


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2 weeks ago on September 1st, 2014 | J | 44,355 notes
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petition for the next companion to not be a white girl in her 20s who crushes on the Doctor 

petition for the next companion to be a grumpy chinese-american grandma who complains about plot-holes and knits the doctor horrific time-travel-themed sweaters to wear when she thinks it’s cold out (most of the time)

reblogging because this is the best idea ever

4 weeks ago on August 24th, 2014 | J | 88,784 notes
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Whenever I feel a little down, I go watch this video.

We live in an age of wonders.


1 month ago on August 21st, 2014 | J | 73,948 notes


Why is “Don’t be an asshole” so difficult to understand? Simplest thing in the world, yet you’d think it was goddamn quantum mechanics the way so many people can’t seem to wrap their brain around it.

"Don’t be an asshole."

"But I’m a woman, and - "

"And? So am I. That…

1 month ago on August 17th, 2014 | J | 722 notes


Been trying something new with my coffee this fall.

1 month ago on August 17th, 2014 | J | 67,298 notes




So it’s 3AM and It’s just occurred to me that the most telling scene in the entire Harry Potter franchise is the scene following the announcement of the participants of the Triwizard tournament.

When Harry’s name is…

1 month ago on August 12th, 2014 | J | 68,871 notes


I eat romantic shit up. If I were asked to just sit on a roof and look at the stars id probably internally combust

1 month ago on August 10th, 2014 | J | 217,722 notes
1 month ago on August 9th, 2014 | J | 82,022 notes



you know how you say words so many times and they lose their meaning? that’s how I feel about the words “trauma” and “trigger” right now.

Putting this on the reg blog because it’s useful info

Seriously, we need to get this right. If the word looses its meaning than those of us with actual triggers from mental illness will have no way to express what sets us off. Instead we will just be subject to more ridicule. More people will brush it off and tell us to “get over it” instead of taking our needs seriously.

So just stop.

1 month ago on August 8th, 2014 | J | 51,458 notes
1 month ago on August 6th, 2014 | J | 6,869 notes




Just imagine the Avengers going to Ikea, and Thor is the only one who can pronounce the name of anything. 

This is disproportionately hilarious to me.


1 month ago on August 4th, 2014 | J | 156,239 notes


this is my only hypothesis

1 month ago on July 24th, 2014 | J | 21,324 notes
when the boys pull your hair and push you to the ground
during recess
I promise not to tell you that it’s because they like you.
when the teachers call home to tell me that
you pushed them to the ground after you
I’ll take you out of school early and buy
you your favorite ice cream.
when you get older and the boys
try to touch you when you don’t want to be touched
I’ll look at you like the sun when you come home
with anger in your fists.
they all tell you not to fight fire with fire
but that is only because they are afraid of your flames.
when the boys yell after you like hyenas
you yell back, baby.
I will not teach you to be afraid of your anger
so that you look for it in others.
I will not make you be the better person
because you already are.
you wanna fight ‘em? fight ‘em.
don’t you dare apologize for the fierce love
you have for yourself
and the lengths you go to preserve it.
when the boys try to tell you to soften up
I hope you make them bleed with your edges.
I hope you remember that you are not theirs
that their disappointment in you is not yours.
when the boys come to your door with pretty words and
angry eyes
I hope you show them the anger in yours.
I hope you show them just how strong your mommy
thinks you are.
I hope you show them the animal they can’t always
see in their own reflection.
when the boys come with the intention of hurting you
my advice will always stay the same, my darling:
give ‘em hell.
- when the boys come | Caitlyn S. (via friendzonked)
2 months ago on July 15th, 2014 | J | 152,822 notes
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What I mean: You are one of the best friends I've ever had. The level on which we connect baffles me. I'm so so happy that I can share my interests, secrets, guilt, faults, joys, and insecurities with you in confidence and receive encouragement to improve and keep being better, and I'm comfortable with the ease with which I can reciprocate those feelings and that support to you as well. We make a great team and I'm really fortunate to have you in my life.
What I say: u lil shit
2 months ago on July 11th, 2014 | J | 339,597 notes



the most realistic friendship scene i have ever seen in a movie


2 months ago on July 1st, 2014 | J | 80,054 notes